Open Question: It was my fault, was he right in blaming me?

I’ve been in a long distance with this guy for a few months now, before we were friends for a few years, met at uni.

We started long distance as before he relocated for a new job he realised he still had feelings for me. So everything was good to start with but recently has been very distant and lack of contact. A month ago he said no other girl he’s just stress with new job.

2 weeks ago he said we need to meet up soon and he’s free every weekend, so later on I suggested weekend before my birthday. He made up this lame excuse on a family holiday, I asked him if he was lying, or if keeping something from me. No reply

Not heard from him for over 2 weeks, I texted him and he dumped me over a text. I called him. He lied to say he was abroad and no other girl, he kept saying he wasn’t lying and I’ve no proof, where else could he be. I mentioned Facebook that was when he said he’s met someone in May and only this week decided to be in a relationship. He said he’s clicked with her and that it wasn’t a light decision, wants to be in a relationship with her.

It hurts so much to see he’s spending all his time with her, Instagram, friends with her family on Facebook… and that she gets to spend time with him on his birthday.

I’ve been waiting 4 years for him to make up his mind and I never got the relationship/girlfriend status. Its so unfair. Not once did he feel bad or guilty in what he did, instead blamed me for the distance and being on edge — how can I not when he’s history in messing me around and I sensed he was being weird, lack of contact. Why did he do this to me, treat me so badly all of sudden? Was it all my fault?

Open Question: It was my fault, was he right in blaming me?